Boudoir photography is so much more than just sexy photos of a woman. It is often grouped in with pornography when in fact, it doesn't have anything to do with sex. So, the question is then what is boudoir photography? In its simplest form, a boudoir session is literally time that a women spends relearning to love her body. In today's society women get mixed messages about what is beauty, what is sexy and what is desirable. Women are told to be virginal while the media simultaneously uses the female form as a sexual object designed to sell whatever product is currently being marketed. And to top it off, women are told on a daily basis that they are not skinny enough, beautiful enough, smart enough, good enough. So what is a girl with a muffin top and stretch marks to do? Re-learn to love your body exactly the way that it is. And that is a fucking scary statement. Isn't it? Loving yourself exactly the way you are, right now. Not when you lose 10lbs. Not once you can fit a size 6. Not once you can afford botox or get that chemical peel. Right now. As you are.
The funny thing about boudoir photography is that it is a little bit counter intuitive in that the confidence comes after doing the scary thing. It's hard to imagine baring yourself, your soul, and showing your body to photographer in a studio you've probably never been to before and then feel confident about it afterwards. But, I promise you that outside of your comfort zone is where all the great stuff in life happens. It is always amazing to watch my client's come into the studio and sit down for makeup and feel the nervous vibe that they have and then to see that same client at the end of the session laughing, carefree and feeling damn good about herself, it makes me feel so good about the work I do. It makes me so happy to know that when that client sees the final images, she is going to experience something that she has maybe never felt before. Joy and excitement about photos off herself. There are women that absolutely hate every single photo of themselves. They don't like to take pictures, even with their own children because she just knows that she isn't going to be happy with how she looks in them. And when I can present an entire gallery of beautiful images, where the client sees herself and just falls in love with herself (wow), and sees one picture after the next and little by little begins to look at herself just a little differently. With confidence. With excitement. And that is everything. Even if another soul never sees these images, it is worth it.